Before I get started, let me assure you that I don't dispense advice thinking that I have all of the answers. With that in mind, however, I did want to share a few tips that I have learned along the way. I have to tell you, though, that the first thing that I learned upon becoming a mother is that my mother is one of the smartest people on this planet.
Navy Law states: "If you can keep your head when all about you others are losing theirs, it is possible that maybe you just don't understand the situation." I believe that this also means that you are probably a mother.
Mothers must keep calm and keep going whether it is spilled milk, a dirty diaper, ditching school, a positive pregnancy test or whatever. We are not really given the option of having the breakdown that is both warranted and/or deserved. However, there is another military rule that I like to adhere to. Test pilots have the litmus test. When something goes wrong, the first thing they ask is if this thing is still flying. If the answer is yes, then there is no immediate danger or really no need to panic. In other words. If the kid is screaming, they are still getting air to their lungs, if the kid is talking back, then they will be more independent when they grow up, and if the kid is finger painting with his own poop, clean it up and figure that they are going to be an artist someday. Not to mention, they are already finding new and innovative ways to recycle. Just about everything can be dealt with more easily with a level head and a certain amount of common sense.
It is often said that children are resilient and can bounce back from many things including tragic events. I say that it is mothers who are quick to recover when something happens. For example, when your child goes off to school for the first time. Whether they cling to your leg and cry or go and sit down without so much as a glance back, we mothers have to leave that school and hold our tears until we get into the vehicle where no one can see us. Once that initial cry is over, however, we know that there are stacks of laundry to be done, dishes to be put away, dusting, sweeping and mopping to do and usually a job outside the home to go to. All tissues aside, we have work to do and we do it.
This why we have a holiday called Mother's Day, folks, to celebrate the brave, beautiful, wise and wonderful person that takes care of us from birth on. So buy her flowers, take her out to eat, let her have a two hour nap in the middle of the afternoon, but take time to honor her and what she has done for you.
Mothers, I feel your pain as well as your pride and I salute you. Happy Mother's Day.